In a perfect world, there would be a rulebook that lets us know when a relationship is right for us (a small one that’s tote-friendly and comes with highlighters, obviously). Since there isn’t, we all know what it feels like to dwell on whether we’re making the right decision to maintain a relationship or leave it. Whether it’s with your significant other, your best friend or your family member, sometimes issues emerge and it’s difficult to decide what to do about it. The pressure is overwhelming—do you stay and hope you aren’t wasting your time, or do you leave and wonder if it was just a rough patch that could’ve passed? Although we don’t have highlighters for you (our bad, we know), here are some indicators on when to let a relationship go.
1. When You Feel Like You’re Walking On Eggshells
This isn’t healthy. Repeat: Not healthy. The insecurity of being yourself around someone in fear of upsetting them or pushing them away is a type of trap that is both heartbreaking and toxic. The purpose of a relationship is to find someone who knows who you are and loves you for it. If someone doesn’t seem to be interested, the amount of emojis you send and how understanding you are to their needs will not make a difference. So next time you catch yourself asking your best friends if what you said was “too much,” remind yourself that you are great and deserve people who think this (instead of making you feel like you need to mold yourself into someone else).
2. When It’s Affecting Your Everyday Life
Relationships are about compromise; that’s the simple truth. If you’re accommodating to someone and it’s causing you to miss work deadlines and neglect other things that once made you happy, take a step back. Your personal life should not be diminishing at the expense of fueling someone else’s happiness. Similarly, a relationship that is upsetting you to the point where you don’t feel like yourself or have little energy to get out of bed is another concern. In general, a positive and healthy relationship is indicated by your own state of happiness—life is too short to not be living it due to a relationship bringing it down.
Want to know when a relationship needs to end? Find out what the other indicators are on The Everygirl.